Although I didn't know what it was at the time looking back he always had tons of sensory issues. We respect everyone’s right to express their thoughts and opinions as long as they remain respectful of other community members, and meet What to Expect’s Terms of Use. I think that her being jealous when baby was born - normal! Not giving choices. Should parents intervene when siblings squabble? I noticed lack of eye contact and pointing around 12 months. He developed typically until around age one and started regressing. Find out everything you need to know about parenting an autistic child. If your child has been diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder, you may feel overwhelmed and unsure about their future. P.S. My son has been an extremely active kiddo. It means your brain works in a different way from other people. Same side as the kicking leg. He makes ok eye contact (likes new people more than me it seems) but gets bored quickly. She never fell asleep nursing and rarely fell asleep being rocked after about 4 months. A child may appear to be developing normally but when it comes time for the child to speak, parents are met with silence or meaningless babble. But all babies are different! From when he started moving in utero at 20 weeks, I swear he hasn't stopped! Baby STARES all the time and my son never did that (it was a nightmare trying to get photos of him!) It was right around 6 months I started wondering if something more was going on. Older babies who are later diagnosed with ASD develop fixations on unusual objects like fans, parts of toys (but not the toy), floor or ceiling patterns. Sometimes, though, those voices never come. I am a physical therapist so I'm hyper vigilant anyways. I had zero concerns until she was 9 months and not babbling. If you feel a message or content violates these standards and would like to request its removal please submit the following information and our moderating team will respond shortly. He wasn't fussy, just awake. As an infant, no. Autism is rarely diagnosed before a child is 3 years old. Loud? We just have to learn to trust our hearts to lead the way. My 4yo was the most actual baby I have ever met. If you think you or your child may be autistic, get advice about the signs of autism. If your child isn’t smiling at you or showing expressions of enjoyment by this age, this might be a clue that your baby may have some developmental delays , according to Helpguide.org. Fine-motor skills are generally lacking: he doesn't like using spoons and forks because he's bad at it, we have yet to get him to write, and he hasn't learned to type either. The idea that an extremely complex disorder like Autism can be caused by a child's video is as ridiculous as when they first thought Autism was caused by "refrigerator mothers" (mom's who appeared cold towards their child). My parents' first concern was that he didn't seem to really respond to auditory cues (calling his name, snapping, clapping). I mostly worry because of my husband - although he's "normal" to other people and functions very well. Yeah my son is content at daycare and plays a bunch on the mat rolling around with all the babies. he flapped his little hands but I figured that was a baby thing but no and he doesn't do it anymore. He can do it though. Having never been around another baby, I had no idea the things we were going through weren't typical. Keep an eye on it. He always got collic at 7pm at night and would cry for an hour or two until bed. When it comes to learning, he's always needed help (obviously). Seeing these rows will make you feel frantic; frustrated and nervous and empty. Create an account or log in to participate. Just wondering there are any parents out there of autistic children who remember how they acted/behaved as an infant? I've been trying to reaserch this on the internet and nearly all the parents accounts say they always knew there child was a bit different from a young age. My daughter was a very easy baby. My only reference point was Rain Man. Fussy? But a little after 1 ALOT changed. If your child has signs of autism, Dr. Frazier advises scheduling a visit to your pediatrician right away. He kicks one leg way more than the other and will pat his bottle over and over with one hand. My son had colic from about 2-6 months of age. If you are concerned, I'd suggest visiting the University of Oregon's website which you can use from birth to age 5 1/2 years to see how your child is doing developmentally. As for his behavior as infant: He was very slow to start speaking, and had gotten to the point of uttering "mumumumum," (mom) and "dadadadad," (dad) when suddenly he stopped altogether. being oversensitive to things like bright lights or loud noises; being undersensitive to things like touch or pain; anxiety, especially when routines suddenly change ; not being able to make sense of what's going on around them; being unwell or in pain; These behaviours are not your or your child's fault. He took his first steps after 16 months. It's great you're paying attention so early! He was always delayed and had a really hard time learning how to swallow properly (formula and food). It's so interesting how babies can be so wildly different. This is a big shock to me, I know that must make me stupid or something. But I always thought my son was different. Good sleeper, likes to just hang out. - Failure to potty train or even show the slightest signs of readiness, - No fear in situation where another child would havd shown hesitation. She started solids at 4 months because she still wasn't gaining much. Children make several visits to their pediatrician during this period for well-baby/child check-ups, vaccinations and general developmental screenings. If I were to summarize it all, I'd say: Raising an autistic child is about one and half to two times the work of raising your average child. That's when we started getting worried. When we received our diagnosis, I didn't know where to turn, what to do or what to think. But as she got older, I started to question some signs. As a toddler, Mary… Never mouthed objects even when teething Never put feet down to bounce on legs of a person; or in the “jolly jumper” or exersaucer Never put pressure on her legs Would raise legs into a seated position and hold them there when asked to stand up --- Heavily dependant on his daily routine and any deviation from this routine would send him into freak out mode for the rest of the day. His movement was equal bilaterally across the board and never preferred one side for anything. It's sad to see the differences but good to know I'm doing the right thing for my son. Not giving an autistic child choices is a common mistake. Extremely colicky, horrible sleeper, just a plain old fussy baby. It's something you're born with or first appears when you're very young. Parenting an autistic child is no different from raising any other child. Tons of separation anxiety. Human touch is not relaxing to her, it is stimulating. I am the Baby Einstein DVD on repeat. I know all kids are different. My brother, Treyson, is on the slightly more severe side of mild. He also seems to have favorite scenes in Barney, and quickly learned how to use the remote so he could rewind and replay his favorite parts. I wouldn't worry right now, just watch him and love him for who he is, as I'm sure you already do. They daycare teachers say he is always smiling and scooting around. Find advice, support, and good company (and some stuff just for fun). ‘Steel Magnolias’ actress dies at 76 from COVID-19. Get an autism diagnosis for your child. What are the signs of autism? Honestly a lot of those things sound like she's gifted. Some children with autism appear normal before age 1 or 2 and then suddenly “regress” and lose language or social skills they had previously gained. Is autism a part of your life? An autistic child may not look at you, or may avoid looking at your eyes. I saw no warnings. Some of this stuff he still struggles with and he's almost 5 years old. Your child is lovable, autism and all. Parents.com However, forcing an autistic child to make eye contact is squarely in the “what not to do with an autistic child” category. Never stopped! He entertained himself a lot. He still just doesn't need as much sleep as most kids. It’s all according to how the day goes and what happens. If you don't teach the child that they must try things at least once, you'll end up feeding them a very lopsided and unhealthy diet. I'm the parent of a child with autism, and I'm aware that autism, like most permanent medical conditions, is life-changing. I have used this several times and it helps a lot. It's great that she has an interest in other people. Done with naps before 2. Like when they get mobile they just want to get into everything. Many of my friends "neurotypical" kids were like that. and is already noticing when people (mostly me) leave the room and getting upset. It's just I worry and I know he isn't "typical" but then what babies really are totally normal ? Please whitelist our site to get all the best deals and offers from our partners. You have to go the extra mile in teaching them and learning what makes them tick, but if you keep with it, you will have a very normal child with just a few extra needs. An autistic child may not participate in playing copycat. Even very early on, my son wasn't bothered about being left on his own. We strive to provide you with a high quality community experience. He is 4 now, but as a baby he could be lovable, and then not be. She rolled over, sat up, crawled, and stood up early. He was also a fussy baby but slept very well - through the night at 10 weeks and started 12hour stretches at 6 months which he still does. Calm? He wasn't a sleepy newborn. This is interesting. I have a 3mo baby now and the difference between her and my son is striking already. I don't think you should worry til after 1. --- Very very limited speech, 2 words by his 3rd birthday. If your child has any of the early warning signs of autism, seek help right away so that s/he can receive the intervention s/he needs as early as possible. He isn't really fussy unless he's tired or hungry. But my husband I swear is undiagnosed aspbergers. Some days, I taste like shame and bitterness, burning up from a mother’s heart like sour indigestion. A baby brings hopes for a perfect life filled with baseball games, piano recitals, and tiny voices learning to say, "Mommy," "Daddy, and, “I love you." My daughter is 6 with level 2 ASD and Apraxia of Speech. They thought he might be deaf; by chance they discovered through the testing he was in fact autistic. He loves bright colors, new toys. She has SPD and likely ADHD as well. Some of the "signs" you listed - honestly sounds like a normal kid or one that has way more wheels turning up there than most. See if they mimic you. He was unbelievably active and never slowed for for anything. So far, hearing the words "your son has autism" was the single worst moment of my life (and there have been some bad ones). He is pretty social. Stimming. He didn't particularly like going to others, but he wasn't shy or anything. © 2020 Everyday Health, Inc. with head banging in frustration around 2ish, were my only real signs. This is called the regressive type of autism. He has a somewhat mild form of it though. Being autistic does not mean you have an illness or disease. Son #2 is my lazy baby, didn't move much when I was pregnant with him. My son is also very independent. Part of the challenge is learning to understand signals: developing insight into how your child’s mind works, trying to see the world as he or she sees it, and not comparing your parenting skills with those of a parent of typical children. Still have questions? The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of What to Expect. He's had sensory issues but it's more like too hot or too cold, when you touch him (tickling or playing) you can tell he just feels it differently than we would. What they found in later years was that Mothers appeared cold because they didn't know how to be loving to a child who couldn't let them into their world. She was a pretty happy and active baby and toddler. He was an okay sleeper once he hit about 8-9 months and slept through the night at around a year. But an active kiddo that's independent doesn't strike me as odd or different. If you're autistic, you're autistic your whole life. 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At the same time, parenting an autistic child is totally different from raising a child without autism. He would eat just about anything started walking a week before his 1st birthday. This occurred after one of the many shots given to young children, and while there are many claims that it has caused other autistic spectrum children to also go quiet, there's no conclusive evidence. Just curious what your kids were like birth-6 months. But if your child's doctor thinks it's possible your child has autism or another disorder, you'll be referred to a specialist or team of specialists for more testing. The earlier a child with autism begins treatment, the better the outcome. I remember asking my mom why he didn't sleep like she said newborns would. He'd stare at things like he was trying to figure it all out. Of course I love him and he's so fun. If you treat your child with kindness and respect, others will too, and your child will grow up feeling like a complete and worthwhile person. Your child with autism wants to form a secure bond with you, even if it doesn’t always seem that way. Feeding issues? I’m not saying your child has autism, it is such a wide spectrum and please don’t dwell on it just enjoy your baby. He wanted nothing to do with being held, he wanted to be down and in to everything. He babbles a ton. He glances at me and then goes back to what he's doing. This educational content is not medical or diagnostic advice. Fixation on unusual objects. 2. Me says: January 29, 2019 at 1:45 am Of course, people get weird around people who have something wrong with them. That in combo. Stimming stands for "self-stimulating behaviour". Believe that the behaviors of an autism diagnosis are REAL, and teach your child that it’s OK to have autism, while at the same time teaching them to function in a neurotypical world. Make faces at your baby. Males are four times more likely to have autism than females. He's always had a few fixations: namely, he likes playing in dirt, sand, and water. Or get him undiagnosed. He was super easy. When we constantly dictate what a child should be doing, they feel a lack of control. Both my sons have autism and they've always been very different from another even as babies. I'm wondering because my 6 month old worries me. You have to go the extra mile in teaching them and learning what makes them tick, but if you keep with it, you will have a very normal child with just a few extra needs. This action cannot be undone. If a child's lunch consists of a grilled cheese sandwich, a cup of tomato soup, a salad, an orange & a glass of milk, is that too much food? Call your baby’s name. Dream baby happy and smiling s few sensory things with sound slept well ate well. If you have concerns, start documenting and talk to his pediatrician. I can remember thinking he was different at about 2 weeks old. At this age, picking up on signs of autism involves paying attention to whether your child is meeting developmental milestones. Now having other children, wow, I would have had him evaluated much sooner. If the pedi isn't any help (like mine wasn't) contact the health department for an EI evaluation. Even if your child were falsely diagnosed with autism — even if he is simply a late bloomer — it won't make him autistic. Were there any signs or markers you remember now looking back that may have indicated autism earlier on? Good sleeper? Lack of crying, lack of movement, and lack of interest in surroundings – often the baby seems comfortable, showing no sign of distress, hunger etc. The American Academy of Pediatrics now recommends that the 18- and 24-month well check-ups also include developmental screening for autism spectrum disorders (ASDs) for all children. Didn't need held. Signs of autism in babies younger than 12 months old . We've had to push him all the way, and if we didn't, he was perfectly fine with not learning which has become a seriously roadblock for my parents now. And don’t tell me that there is nothing wrong with autistic people, if everyone was autistic, this species would have perished long, long, long time ago. He had always been loving and very smart as a little one, but as an infant, he was normal. It is perfectly fine to explain to someone that your child is autistic, but never apologize for it and never make excuses. Didn't need constant attention like my non asd child. Awful sleeper when he was born but was generally a happy baby and very curious. Sounds a lot like my son. If symptoms warrant and/or the child has a sibling with … I'm the elder brother to an autistic child (10 years his senior). Easily bored? Quiet? Sensory seekers or avoiders? He's starting to babble. He'd simply continue to thrive, and you could throw that diagnosis in the trash. I've experienced firsthand what happens if they are not given structure- and it's a very depressing thing. The educational health content on What To Expect is reviewed by our medical review board and team of experts to be up-to-date and in line with the latest evidence-based medical information and accepted health guidelines, including the medically reviewed What to Expect books by Heidi Murkoff. He sleeps ok. Babies with autism may be lacking verbal noises, be slow to verbalize, or suddenly stop verbalizing after a point. Learn about raising a child with autism, how to know its autism, and autism vaccines. Is it dangerous for a 16 year old to go to the Goodwill Outlet alone. From the time he started to crawl, that was it. Son #1 was super active when I was pregnant with him. The 2 or 3 words he would say completely stopped and he started to slowly but surely dislike almost every food. Better than some, not as bad as others. If I were to summarize it all, I'd say: Raising an autistic child is about one and half to two times the work of raising your average child. As he got older, though, his vocabulary was quite limited and then it disappeared all together. He had many signs as a kid. She did not sleep in the hospital after she was born. Yes, autism can grip your child’s brain even when she is in the womb. He hit his milestones on the slower end of things, but he did hit them without major concern. I am hours of Minecraft. He's picky about food, judging by appearance and texture first and often not even trying foods that don't look or feel pleasing; I would encourage being strict in this area as well if you experience the problem. Scared by loud noises ? Things that we picked out that made him different were -. Don't seem to dislike any foods or medicines. At home, he is way more fussy and isn't content to be left alone more than 5-10 minutes. reviewed by our medical review board and team of experts. Learn more about, Your Guide to the First Trimester of Pregnancy, Your Guide to the Second Trimester of Pregnancy. Now he's an engineer, smartest person I know, and seems normal to others but has to work very hard in social situations. Is a 20 month old too old to still be wearing diapers? Wanted to explore. Join Yahoo Answers and get 100 points today. He's mainly a sensory avoider so he would freak out when we had to bathe him, cut his nails, dress him, change his diaper, put lotion on him, didn't like most baby food (only banana, apples, oatmeal), screamed during car rides, etc. Not really as noticeable till after 1 year. He only liked being held by certain people but didn't mind being left alone in a room to play alone. An autistic child should not not be forced to not be autistic. She did not nurse well, and was labeled failure to thrive at 2 weeks, so I had to start supplementing her with a bottle. A false diagnosis is not the worse thing that could happen. Horrible, horrible colic despite the many measures we did to ease his discomfort! Since birth. I know my son at 6 months was too young to tell, he was pretty easy very happy slept awful during night time still does and he's 4 next month. My son in some ways sounds like your son. One thing I must encourage is creating a routine and strict parenting. From 6 months he also became the happiest little boy and was so easily content which was such a relief after the first stage! Despite the fact that we know more about the early signs of autism, the reality is that many children are still not diagnosed until around age four. Obviously it's super hard to tell and sometimes there aren't any true signs until they're older. I need help no judging it hard for me to write this? He makes eye contact and smiles a lot. My oldest wasn't diagnosed till 7, but I just always knew something was different. But since then, he has slept all night long. He was hyperflexible, but that doesn't stand out in the autism spectrum. You've got time. Don’t Talk Around Someone With Autism Them As … So, as an infant, no. My son didn't want hugs and kisses (still don't really) and has now started consistently making eye contact but every baby is different and so is every autistic baby/child. Is someone 36 too old for a 28 old year old? My son is like this but "checks in" and will search for me while he's playing. Hell, since before birth. My daughter is 3 and her nursery have said they are concerned that she shows a lot of autistic traits and have told me to contact my health visitor. Autism is not an illness. An autistic baby may not smile, even to a parent. What do you mean sensory issues with your first? My oldest is in the spectrum and has ADHD, so being my first, I really didn't know what to expect. Smile at your baby. To me, that's normal for boys. I’m sure plenty of adult baby fetishists would hate it if someone treated them like a baby without consent. If you notice any of these signs or have concerns about your child's development, talk with his doctor. This action cannot be undone. He stayed fussy for much of his infancy, as well. Absence of these interactions is one of the chief signs of autism during the first six months of a baby’s life. Use of this site is subject to our terms of use and privacy policy. I am long, neat rows of Thomas the Tank engines snaking around your family room. Trust your instincts if you are concerned. Oddly, his eye contact was great until he hit his first birthday. Reply. My friends son is autistic, and he seemed like a normal baby - they worried when he was getting closer to two and not walking yet. What was your autistic child like as an infant? Until you take this step, you won't know for sure whether your child has autism. I don't know how else to explain it. The 5 Easy Questions That Can Help Detect Autism. She sounds like she keeps you on your toes. Get your answers by asking now. It will ask for the child's birthday so it will give you the correct assessment tools/questions, as well as for your email so it can quickly let you know the results. Are you sure you want to delete your discussion? With hindsight there were signs very, very early with him. if your child has autism what were they like when they were 2 to 3 years (99 Posts) Add message | Report. He still babbles, but we can't get him to produce words, and every noise he does make is usually just vowels- no consonance (he's now 10).